The pursuit of...Letting go

Every now and then it's good to have a declutter.
It could be as simple as decluttering your home or wardrobe. A declutter of the mind, by taking time out to meditate and focus. Or it could even be a declutter of those people around you.
"A change is as good as a rest" they say and sometimes our mind and energy become bogged down by things and people around us that subconsciously drain and sap our positivity and aura.

For example, have you ever felt that there are some people in your life that are more life-sucking then life-enriching?
We all perhaps have encountered that friend or family member at some point in our lives, who always has some kind of 'drama' going on....they just attract it don't they? fact, they thrive on it.  
Every phone call or meeting becomes monopolised by another draining story of their ups and downs...You find yourself continually having to give pep talks and reassurance and conversations generally tend to revolve around their world, with little or no interest in your own.
Or how about those relationships where you have simply just grown apart and find that you no longer have any shared interests or common ground and every conversation feels strained?

I've been guilty of investing in friendships like this many times and it wasn't until probably about a couple of years ago that I decided to consciously distance myself and break away from those relationships.
As difficult as it might be, there comes a time when its time to cut loose.
I felt so much better for it and realised quickly that some friendships (even if it's family members) do not have to be sustained and maintained for life.
As a fiercely loyal person, I struggled with the philosophy of friends for "reasons, seasons or lifetimes" (below) and often clung on to relationships that I should have let go much earlier.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

I think the words in this old poem above are very true and we would do good to recognise each of these types of people when they come into our lives.

Don't be afraid to let go!

Love, Ivy George x 

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